Tips to deal with betrayal
- By Dr. Shalini Kapoor
Breach of trust is difficult to handle. But strong determination and good survival techniques can help sail through any situation.
You need lot of strength as well as discipline to survive a betrayal. You can do many things so that things can get back on track. But the foremost thing is that you should be willing to put effort. Here are some of the ways that can help you to get over the betrayal successfully.
Do not suppress your emotions
If you have been hurt deeply, it is but natural to feel emotional about it. There is no need to suppress your feelings, as it will further deepen the hurt and make you angrier. The best way is to give vent to anger and release all the negative emotions. Let the period of mourning consume you for a while and get it out of the system. This will help you to move on with more positive frame of mind than before.
Write down your feelings and goals
If you do not have anyone to talk to, the best way is to write things down. This will help you express your feelings and also understand them better when you read it after the writing is done. Try to come out with a solution by writing down your goals and the things you want to accomplish in your life. Concentrating on those will help to divert your mind and use it more fruitfully. Start working on improving the aspects that need polishing so that you can bounce back with more confidence and skill. Take the betrayal as a good lesson instead of punishment and you will emerge much stronger and better, ready to take on the world with renewed confidence.
Add Highlights to your Personality
Try something new so that you can add one more qualification to your profile. This will distract your concentration from the problem and help you get over the hurt of betrayal quickly. Joining a health club or a dance club is one of the best ways of dispelling your negative emotions as physical activity rejuvenates your body and builds up a sense of positivity and confidence within. You can start new hobby that needs full concentration and involvement such as hiking, mountaineering and so on. Learning something new will help you feel better.
You can try using counseling DVD, taking advice from a counselor if the situation is beyond your control or changing the location for a while if possible.